Julie had a frustrating day today at work, and I thought that this pic says a thousand words how a frustrating day can feel, I'm sure we can all relate. Through many mistakes I have found that frustrations at work present golden opportunities in relationships. Specifically in marriages. They are opportunities for Julie and I to handle together and bring us closer together. Now this does not always happen (the closer together part). I too often like many men like to skip the sympathy role and get to the remedy. After all who wants to sit around and think about a problem from a million different ways and continue to relive it? I'd rather try to fix it so it does not happen again, and fix it immediately. Besides we gotta get the facts and figure out who is right and wrong and figure this thing out---Danger Zone. But my wife does not work that way. I have learned probably just a tip of the iceberg of what it means to "come along side" my wife and try to understand those frustrating feelings. And I still mess it up more than get it right. Now 4 years into this marriage I am getting a little better. I have come to find how important these golden opportunities are for Julie and I. They are critical to the safety and nurturing of her feelings. And for us this builds our intimacy and oneness. For me this also creates a very real picture of how the Holy Spirit deals with us in our prayers of frustrations and hard times. Today we handled the frustrations better than normal--Thank You God! Hopefully we can do even better next time!
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Frustration
Julie had a frustrating day today at work, and I thought that this pic says a thousand words how a frustrating day can feel, I'm sure we can all relate. Through many mistakes I have found that frustrations at work present golden opportunities in relationships. Specifically in marriages. They are opportunities for Julie and I to handle together and bring us closer together. Now this does not always happen (the closer together part). I too often like many men like to skip the sympathy role and get to the remedy. After all who wants to sit around and think about a problem from a million different ways and continue to relive it? I'd rather try to fix it so it does not happen again, and fix it immediately. Besides we gotta get the facts and figure out who is right and wrong and figure this thing out---Danger Zone. But my wife does not work that way. I have learned probably just a tip of the iceberg of what it means to "come along side" my wife and try to understand those frustrating feelings. And I still mess it up more than get it right. Now 4 years into this marriage I am getting a little better. I have come to find how important these golden opportunities are for Julie and I. They are critical to the safety and nurturing of her feelings. And for us this builds our intimacy and oneness. For me this also creates a very real picture of how the Holy Spirit deals with us in our prayers of frustrations and hard times. Today we handled the frustrations better than normal--Thank You God! Hopefully we can do even better next time!
What do I do?
The first blog, so much pressure, yeah whatever. There is so much to say and so much to write about. The temptation is to try and cram everything. I think I'll take a basic approach and and talk about my background pic. I will not leave it there forever so I want to brag about it for a minute. Julie took this pic in her usual exceptional photography self. We were visiting Jordin out in Cali last year; and while we were there Julie and I went to Yosemite for the day and this is one of her pics that she took. She caught me checkin out some fish. And even though I do not show it that water was cold! Yosemite water in July was chilly! As I think about this pic several things come to mind. How blessed I am to be able to go to California, do be able to do it with a great wife, and the magnificent creation of God. Being in places like Yosemite it brings to mind a verse like Psalm 46:10. When you are in these types of places life slows down, perspective changes, and little things can be noticed. And it gets even better when you are with the person you love most. Being at Yosemite and seeing this pic (and I'll post other ones that Julie took, they're great too) helps and reminds me to "Be still and know that He is God"
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